Is Marriage for Me?
So, are you single and looking? Great news! For every 89 single men in America, there are 100 single women. 102 million singles are in the US making up nearly 45% of all adults. Translation, THERE IS HOPE SOMEONE IS OUT THERE FOR YOU! But, before we go any further with a few thoughts on dating we need to be honest with each other. If dating someone has consumed your thoughts, kept your life on hold, or is all your friends say you talk about, then you need a priority adjustment before you move forward with dating.
Having a relationship with God is priority number one in your life regardless of your relationship status. As a single adult, you have the ability to have an amazing relationship with the one who created you before ever bringing someone else into your life. Just like Adam in the garden, you need to have a strong relationship with God first before bringing another person into the mix. Who you are in Christ before you marry will be who are to your spouse when you are married. Simply stated, who you are now is who you will be when you are married. So make that the best person you can be and know who you are before taking the next step to find a companion.
When it comes to dating advice we will keep it short and sweet. Don’t say you love someone until you mean it like 1 Corinthians 13:4-8. Online dating is fine to meet someone as long as you meet them in person shortly after to avoid possible complications. So use online dating like you would getting set-up by a friend on a date, but go on the date in person. Dating is important. At the core of dating is a journey to find your possible spouse. Take it slow and don’t make a lifelong commitment out of a short term relationship. Make sure to see people at their worst and best to see if that’s something you want to pursue long term. Lastly, remain sexually pure through dating. This can be a struggle for most, and that is why Paul says to get married if you burn with passion. Don’t push the physical limits to see what is a sin. Instead of testing the limit, try to stay away from it and honor God.
Number of unmarried men 18 and older for every 100 unmarried women in the United States in 2011.
Number of unmarried people in America 18 and older in 2011. This group comprised 44.1 percent of all U.S. residents 18 and older.
Number of households maintained by unmarried men and women in 2011. These households comprised 46 percent of households nationwide.
Percentage of unmarried U.S. residents 18 and older in 2011 who had never been married. Another 24 percent were divorced, and 14 percent were widowed.
TFO’s Statement on Marriage
Table for One Ministries’ mission is to build community for single adults through discipleship. Our ministry focus is on ministering to singles and helping them to fully realize their completeness in Christ. Yet we also affirm the importance of marriage and believe that being complete in Christ is not just for singles, but for marriages as well. Additionally, while we desire to help churches reach and minister to the ever growing single population, we want to acknowledge the importance of marriage in God’s redemptive plan for this world.
We affirm that biblical marriage is established by God as a life-long covenant between one man and one woman. Marriage is intended to be the perfect example of Christ’s relationship with his church and living example of the gospel of forgiveness, grace and mercy. The marriage relationship provides the only acceptable channel for physical intimacy between a man and woman. Additionally, marriage is God’s plan for the procreation of mankind and is vital to fulfilling His will for both mankind and his kingdom.
We believe in the institution of marriage and yet we recognize that there are many Christians who are single for numerous reasons. Our goal is to help singles to continue to grow and to desire a deep and intimate relationship with Christ now, regardless of their marital or relational status.
Blogs for Dating
PDA is everywhere. Holding hands, kissing, hugging, all sometimes done to an extreme in public. It’s the level of PDA as believers that we can control and that should be modest. Sometimes single adults who have found someone have been known to, well, show excessive PDA. This comes from possibly years of not being able […]
It is Saturday night and you know you should go to church tomorrow, yet you have reservations in your heart about where to go or if you should find somewhere new to go. You want to Worship and hear the Word preached, but the church you go to does not seem to get being single or you […]
Ladies, let’s be real. Women on TV are often portrayed as going from one man to another, trying to find completeness in a partner–emotionally, sexually, and sometimes, spiritually. The idea prevails that women need another person to be complete even if he is just a very close friend. Even strong, independent types seek someone to […]
Online dating is a tricky subject. Everyone knows someone who has found the love of their life online, and they are happily married with kids. This creates the idea that online dating is perfect in every way. At the same time, everyone is terrified of the person who lies about everything online in order to […]
As a leader in your singles ministry you will have a dating couple in your group at some point that choose to live together or have a couple come into your group already living together. Sometimes these cohabiting/fornicating/living in sin adults will find their way to a married adult class trying to pass off as […]
Let’s talk about it. Dating inside or outside of your native race can be a big deal. Regardless of skin color, dating a person of a different nationality or ethnicity may lead to a point of contention. Cultural experiences shape us into who we become whether we admit it or not. Events experienced at a […]
Table for One Ministries seeks to build community for single adults through discipleship. We are not a para-church organization, but a resource destination to both singles and churches on ways to reach single adults. God has called us to connect single adults to Him! This bold path is one that targets all backgrounds and types […]
There are over 54 million single people in the U.S. Let’s take a look at dating by the numbers. — 50% of New York state adults are unmarried, making it the best state for single people. — 48% of singles say they have Googled someone before the first date. — 2% of men and […]
True love doesn’t wait. That’s right. All our lives we were taught by Disney, ABC, Hallmark, and others that someday our one “true love” will come and sweep us off our feet. Get married and have perfect children and live happily ever after. But is that what Scripture teaches us? Christian programs talk about this […]
One of the most popular verses in Scripture is John 3:16. See the different Bible versions of this verse side by side by clicking HERE. The NIV is perhaps the most popular translation: “For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son,that whoever believes in him shall not perish but […]
What is a testimony? It is simply sharing how you responded to Christ call in your life. After his encounter with Christ when he spoke before King Agrippa the Apostle Paul was an example for us on how to share our testimony. Read Acts 26 to hear Paul tell his story. Before – Acts 26: […]
So you are not the “outgoing type” or would rather curl up with a book on Friday night and not engage the world. Or maybe you are the “life of the party” kind of person and hate sitting in silence. Both people are created by God and uniquely wired to have a way to “charge […]
Men, let’s be real. On TV we are portrayed as slobs, unable to control our emotions, irrational, and most of all, hopeless without a woman. The “Homer Simpson” man requires a woman that can pick up the pieces when bad decisions are made and run the home. When did the idea that men have to have […]
Six Signs You are Ready to Date! Are you Completely satisfied in Christ? If you feel like you need someone of the opposite sex to complete you, you are not ready. If you are seeking someone to make you happy with material things, you are not ready. If you are hoping someone will improve your […]
Have you ever heard the phrase “Sin will make you stupid?” Credit Dr. Danny Akin for that phrase. It’s true, sin will make people do incredibly ridiculous things knowing they will get caught in the act. Take people who look at things on the internet in a corporate work environment. Not all, but most corporations […]
Perhaps you have heard about this. The Game Show Network (GSN), buoyed by the success of “The American Bible Challenge,” has decided to develop another new game show with believers in mind. And so, they are developing “It Takes a Church,” a dating show where church members compete against each other to find the perfect […]
For those unaware, sexting is a form of provocative language between a couple using electronic communication. In a relationship, couples will often find creative ways to convey their love to one another. In years of old, this may have been letter writing or heaven forbid an actual conversation. In any relationship communication is key, but […]
Table for One Ministries’ mission is to build community for single adults through discipleship. Our ministry focus is helping singles to fully realize their completeness in Christ. Yet we also affirm the importance of marriage and believe that being Complete in Christ is not just for singles, but for married individuals as well. Additionally, while […]
Do you date outside your political views? The current hostile political environment in America can affect dating relationships. We’ve heard stories of first dates asking what political party their potential mate is affiliated with. Christians in America are guilty of making a person’s political allegiances dictate their relationship interactions. For that matter, so are non-Believers. […]
When is the last time you made something “Not an Option”? Truly, 100% said to yourself that under no circumstances will I ever ____. Everyone has things that are not options in their lives, such as the clothes worn to work or the food we choose to eat that may cause allergic reactions. Everyone makes […]
I attended a Christian college. I lived with a roommate attending seminary. I’ve been a part of a large singles group. Basically, I’ve been in a number of Christian circles. And within each circle I’ve noticed a common thread: Dating is way too serious. Maybe you can relate? After a date or two, a couple […]
A bucket list is a compiled list of ideas, experiences and achievements a person wants to do before “kicking the bucket” (dying). So how is that list different for a single adult versus a married adult? Here are three categories we see they are the same and three ways we see they are different. […]
So you are looking for someone to date and you are officially “on the market.” Good for you! If you have a desire to find someone and maybe a future spouse, you have to be willing to put yourself out there and meet new people. You can do this in many ways and some of […]
Trust can take a long time to earn and seconds to end. Trust is the foundation of currency in the world, agreements between Nations, and the foundation of a relationship with Christ. The Bible speaks a lot about trusting in the Lord. Proverbs 3:5-6 says “With all your heart you must trust the Lord and […]
As kids growing up we have a simple view of the way things should be in life. Money should be easy to come by, we will have big houses like we see on TV, and people get married to Mr. or Miss Perfect. There is only one problem with this, no one is perfect but […]
Yes. What? Was that answer too quick and easy? Does every blog have to be 1,000 words or more to truly get to the bottom of an issue? Dating a friend’s ex can be complicated if feelings are still involved. It would not be something to rush into, but it is not something to be […]
You roll out of bed on a Sunday morning at the last possible minute and arrive 15 minutes late to your local church small group meeting. Today’s topic is on 1 Corinthians 13, the “love chapter.” Great. You settle in for a morning talking about couples and love and how they can love one another. […]
You’re walking through the mall on your way to get a shirt and you see it, a couple holding hands. As a single adult, you have been pretty good with not feeling overwhelmed in your singleness, but when you see that emotional and physical connection someone else has, you desire it. Dating may or may […]
No one is happy. The ladies say the guys won’t ask them out. The guys say the ladies stay in their social circles and won’t come out. No one is on anyone’s romantic radar. Welcome to the Friend Zone. It’s a place that single adults find themselves at almost every church event. Sure, there are […]
Take a look on TV, any show any network. In most every media outlet you are likely to see a stereotype of how singles meet: the bar. It may be a fancy place, or a hole in the wall, but most media are telling singles if they want to meet other singles they need to […]
Why do we have difficulties? As followers of the Way, we are called to hard lives. Jesus is pretty clear. Carry your cross. The more we traverse through scripture, the more plain the cross becomes. Lives of sacrifice. Lives where we choose others over ourselves. Lives where we believe and act as if others are […]
I Love Jesus. Jesus Loves Me. I’m Going to Heaven. Simple right? But how many hours do we worry over paying bills, our retirement accounts, and having nice cars? All for what? As born-again Christians, Matthew 6:25-34 is clear how we are to feel about this life. If you want to know more about […]
DTR – Define the Relationship So you have been on a few dates with someone and things look promising. However, you do not know where they stand in their feelings and you would like to be in a committed relationship. Its time for a DTR. Defining the relationship is an honest conversation with someone else […]
Relationships started on a lie are a lie. We watch on TV where people pretend to be someone else in order to “win” a person over. Doing insane things they don’t like all for the sake of being who the other person wants them to be. But here is the problem with that: lies built […]
A single wrote into us and asked “How can I keep from desiring a relationship 24/7?” This is a great question and a struggle many single adults have. The root of this question is trying to fill a void of loneliness, that makes a person feel like they need someone in their life because they […]
Where is the line in dating? That invisible line we all wish we knew between what is too far and equally what is too conservative. We are not just talking about physical lines, but spiritual and emotional lines as well. When it comes to physical lines, 1 Timothy 3:1 is directed at deacons, but we […]
Singles, we all have “types” when it comes to dating. From even a young age, everyone has an ideal person they think they should date. At a young age, the toy market pushes the “ideal” image of the opposite gender to children. By the time we reach a dating age, we gravitate towards someone without […]
Do you ever feel torn between doing what you know is right, and then doing the wrong thing anyway? Choosing to continue in a sin that you should be able to be free of, yet you keep making the same mistake. We have some comforting words for you, the apostle Paul had this same struggle […]
“But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.” – 1 Corinthians 7:9 Marriage is more than a fix for sexual desires. In 1 Corinthians 7, Paul addresses marriage to the married, single, widowed and divorced adults. In light of the above passage, how […]
At Table for One Ministries we are comprised of seminary professors, ministers, doctoral students, and lay leaders passionate about reaching singles. We also have done ministry for decades and know that even the most seasoned of leaders can use a helping hand sometimes. Our Ministry wants to help you get the tools you need to reach singles in your area. We offer that in the following ways: