Am I Married Yet?
Once singles enter into a serious dating relationship, it’s easy to want to rush an engagement along. However, most couples on their wedding day have known each other for more than 3 years prior to that day and were engaged on average for 15 months. 88% of engaged couples end up married with an average attendance at their wedding of 155 people. We believe that you should not base a lifelong commitment on a short term relationship. So, don’t feel the need to get engaged and rush things along. Enjoy your time together and continue to build your relationship together in Christ.
For those who are engaged, it’s sometimes hard to find a place to fit in. When you’re engaged you are technically a single adult, but you are well on your way towards being a married adult. Each couple is different, but you can decide together if moving to a newlywed class is right for you before the wedding day. We simply encourage you to not be so eager to start a new life together that you forget the one you are currently living. Stay involved with your current peer groups through your engagement and after your marriage. Singles are very supportive of their engaged friends because most of them desire the same for themselves.
For those who are thinking of becoming engaged, make sure you have asked all the necessary questions of your mate before you accept or buy the ring. We suggest every couple in a serious relationship to read 101 Questions to ask BEFORE you get engaged by H. Norman Wright. We have seen this book bring couples together before their engagement to have an honest conversation about what it means to live life with one another. It is worth your time and might be one of the best books you read to help your marriage get off to a great start.
The average length of an engagement in America. 2/3 of women want their man to ask their father for permission to marry them and 69% of couples have known each other for 3 or more years.
Percentage of voters in the 2008 presidential election who were unmarried. Source: Voting and Registration in the Election of 2008
TFO’s Statement on Marriage
Table for One Ministries’ mission is to build community for single adults through discipleship. Our ministry focus is on ministering to singles and helping them to fully realize their completeness in Christ. Yet we also affirm the importance of marriage and believe that being complete in Christ is not just for singles, but for marriages as well. Additionally, while we desire to help churches reach and minister to the ever growing single population, we want to acknowledge the importance of marriage in God’s redemptive plan for this world.
We affirm that biblical marriage is established by God as a life-long covenant between one man and one woman. Marriage is intended to be the perfect example of Christ’s relationship with his church and living example of the gospel of forgiveness, grace and mercy. The marriage relationship provides the only acceptable channel for physical intimacy between a man and woman. Additionally, marriage is God’s plan for the procreation of mankind and is vital to fulfilling His will for both mankind and his kingdom.
We believe in the institution of marriage and yet we recognize that there are many Christians who are single for numerous reasons. Our goal is to help singles to continue to grow and to desire a deep and intimate relationship with Christ now, regardless of their marital or relational status.
Blogs for Engagement
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At Table for One Ministries we are comprised of seminary professors, ministers, doctoral students, and lay leaders passionate about reaching singles. We also have done ministry for decades and know that even the most seasoned of leaders can use a helping hand sometimes. Our Ministry wants to help you get the tools you need to reach singles in your area. We offer that in the following ways: