We believe in marriage and that those who are married should remain so by all means. However, in a fallen world 45-50% of first marriages end in divorce. 24% of all singles have been divorced and those divorced from their first marriage have a median age of 30. This means that there will be many single adults who have been married in our communities that need a place to connect.
We at Table for One Ministries do not believe in separating divorced singles from other singles, however we do recommend all divorcee’s go through some type of counseling such as Divorce Care. Every divorce is different. Some involve children, some have been married for long periods of time, and others end abruptly due to infidelity.
If you are divorced, you are not “damaged goods” or a failure to God. As a believer in Christ, His love can wash away your sins, past mistakes, and mistakes you will make in the future. In Christ you can stand proud and be redeemed in Him and take steps to deepen your relationship with Him to prepare you for your future path. Divorce is ugly, messy, and no one wins. But with God’s love, you can begin to move forward in His will if you will trust Him to make decisions in your life.
Number of households maintained by unmarried men and women in 2011. These households comprised 46 percent of households nationwide.
Number of unmarried U.S. residents 65 and older in 2011. These seniors comprised 16 percent of all unmarried people 18 and older.
Percentage of unmarried U.S. residents 18 and older in 2011 who had never been married. Another 24 percent were divorced, and 14 percent were widowed.
TFO’s Statement on Marriage
Table for One Ministries’ mission is to build community for single adults through discipleship. Our ministry focus is on ministering to singles and helping them to fully realize their completeness in Christ. Yet we also affirm the importance of marriage and believe that being complete in Christ is not just for singles, but for marriages as well. Additionally, while we desire to help churches reach and minister to the ever growing single population, we want to acknowledge the importance of marriage in God’s redemptive plan for this world.
We affirm that biblical marriage is established by God as a life-long covenant between one man and one woman. Marriage is intended to be the perfect example of Christ’s relationship with his church and living example of the gospel of forgiveness, grace and mercy. The marriage relationship provides the only acceptable channel for physical intimacy between a man and woman. Additionally, marriage is God’s plan for the procreation of mankind and is vital to fulfilling His will for both mankind and his kingdom.
We believe in the institution of marriage and yet we recognize that there are many Christians who are single for numerous reasons. Our goal is to help singles to continue to grow and to desire a deep and intimate relationship with Christ now, regardless of their marital or relational status.
Blogs for Divorced
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He walked out on his marriage a month ago and comes to your church. He’s brand new and comes to the singles group. He seems nice and you greet him, talk to him, and connect him. Over lunch that week, he mentions that he is recently divorced. As the conversation progresses, you realize that when […]
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At Table for One Ministries we are comprised of seminary professors, ministers, doctoral students, and lay leaders passionate about reaching singles. We also have done ministry for decades and know that even the most seasoned of leaders can use a helping hand sometimes. Our Ministry wants to help you get the tools you need to reach singles in your area. We offer that in the following ways: