The Key is the Struggle
We believe that, according to the Bible, marriage is between one man and one woman. We also knowledge that we live in a fallen world of sin that can entrap any of us in many ways. While many talk about the “normal sins” and “normal addictions”, we often push away those with same-sex attraction struggles because we are not equipped with knowledge and God’s Word to help those in this struggle. So, here are some facts.
25.6 million people in America have struggled with same-sex attraction at some point in their life, while only 3.5% of Americans actively consider themselves lesbian, gay, bisexual, or transgender (LGBT). This means that 1 in 10 Americans have struggled with same-sex attraction in their life. Those who struggle are in our churches and families and often want to seek to be “normal” but cannot find a way to change. We cannot ignore that singles struggle with this issue.
We believe at Table for One Ministries that the Love of God can change anything and that you have not been given a struggle that you cannot have victory over (Romans 6). Accepting Christ as your Lord and Savior will give you power to have victory over this sin. Furthermore, having victory over this sin does not mean that you will suddenly start having an attraction for the opposite sex.
It is important to remember that Christ came and died to bring people to Himself and someone who struggles with same-sex attraction must keep their first goal as Christ-likeness and not necessarily heterosexuality. Christ does not say you have to marry and have a heterosexual relationship in order to glorify Him. Scripture is clear, however, that homosexuality is a sin, 1 Corinthians 6. Many of those who do struggle with this sin will go on to have heterosexual relationships, but we believe that the end goal is to not have a relationship with another person, but with your Creator.
We believe you can struggle with same-sex attraction and follow Christ. However, the key word is struggle. The end goal of this struggle is to no longer be entrapped by it, but be free in Christ. As believers we should strive to uphold God’s Word and follow His will for our lives. We are to strive to be righteous before God and man, if you are taking action in the sin, stop. Ask God for forgiveness of your sins and turn to walk in a new light, Acts 3:19. Connect with other believers and share your struggle with a confidant that can pray with you and help you out of the bondage of this sin.
Number of unmarried-partner households in 2010. Of this number, 593,000 were same-sex households.
Source: 2010 American Community Survey Table B11009.
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