If this is a gift, can I get a refund?

Have you ever heard being single is a gift that some have and some don’t? This comes from 1 Corinthians 7:7-9 , where Paul speaks about marriage and singleness. He urges that everyone remain single like him, but realizes not everyone desires to be. He classifies this as a “gift”; he did not burn with passion to be married, but rather devoted himself to the Lord.

Do you have this same gift?

If you struggle with being single less than a few times per month, you may very well have the gift of singleness. This is not a “given”, as it is a gift from God to have those specific emotions controlled and not to “burn with passion.” According to 1 Corinthians 7:32-35 , this gift is an incredible opportunity to serve God fully and not have divided interests between family and God. It may take years of being single to realize you have the gift of singleness.

Once you acknowledge you have this gift, do you want a refund? Probably not. If you have this gift, you will look at being single as an opportunity, not as a curse or something that will pass.

If you long for a spouse (and maybe kids), then this may not be your gift. However, gifts can change over time as the Lord works in our hearts! During a season of time, you may have this gift, but one day the Lord may call you to be married.

Our point? If you are single and content with your relationship status, you may have this gift. If you are single and not content, it may only be for a short season in your life.

God knows the desires of our hearts and He will direct our paths, if we trust Him. Instead of worrying and wanting a refund, focus on your relationship with God now, regardless of what the future may bring. As we are his children, He will provide everything we need. We need not worry about tomorrow because it will worry about itself ( Matthew 6:34).