Single Myths: They Fear Commitment

She has a commitment issue. He has a phobia and can’t commit.

If you’re single you’ve either heard it once or a million times. Or, perhaps you’ll admit that you’ve thought it about another single–that guy or gal who says no to marriage, no to a long-term relationship or who seems to jump from one relationship to another without a care for the feelings of others.

For some singles, this may be true. But for the majority, their life has shown otherwise.

Every one of us knows at least one single who is on a mission, whether local or abroad. Maybe you are part of a singles group that spends its free Saturday giving time and effort to bagging groceries at the Food Bank. You’re the single mowing the neighbor’s lawn because they are sick or on vacation for a long period. You may be the single who is willing to pitch in where needed, even if you have a long list of personal errands that needed to be done. These lives reflect Galatians 5:13:

For you were called to freedom, brothers. Only do not use your freedom as an opportunity for the flesh, but through love serve one another. (ESV)

Serving takes commitment.

Singles commit to jobs, some requiring more than a full-time schedule. We purchase houses and cars that require a monthly payment schedule. We commit to a budget that includes fulfilling God’s calling to tithe to our church, to give to the needy, to support a child in poverty.

Living takes commitment.

We connect with others and develop friendships that call us to work hard to treat one another with kindness. And, to keep healthy family relationships, we commit to nourishing one another, supporting and loving one another just as Christ commands us in John 13:35.

A new command I give you: Love one another.  As I have loved you, so you must love one another. (NIV)

Relationships take commitment.

And, most importantly, Believers commit to God’s plan for His kingdom. We adjust when He calls for change. We say Yes, when he calls us beyond our four walls of comfort. We commit to make a difference. We run the race He calls us to in Hebrews 12:1b.

And let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us,… (NIV)

Faith takes commitment.

The lives of Christian singles reflect that not only are we committed, we’re open to God’s plan in our lives. Don’t fall into the trap of believing you aren’t or that another single isn’t committed. It’s a myth.