Taming the Single Tongue

Table for One Ministries • June 16, 2014

“With the tongue we praise our Lord and Father, and with it we curse human beings, who have been made in God’s likeness. Out of the same mouth comes praise and cursing. My brothers and sisters, this should not be. Can both freshwater and saltwater flow from the same spring? My brothers and sisters, can a fig tree bear olives, or a grapevine bear figs? Neither can a salt spring produce fresh water.”   James 3:9-12 (NIV)

As a single adult, taming the tongue is particularly important when speaking about your singleness. At Table for One Ministries we believe singles are complete in Christ. Nothing else will satisfy you or even come close to His love shown you.

So why talk negatively about being single like it’s a curse or an unwanted gift? This verbiage displays a lack of trust in the One who controls everything in our lives.

Your tongue has power. In fact, it’s described in verse 8 as “a restless evil, full of deadly poison.” Yikes! That is harsh for the average Christian believing they are mostly good and mostly honoring God most of the time. The issue of taming the tongue comes down to submission to Christ and love.

You must submit your words to the Word of God (James 4:7). Your words should speak love to others so that they may know the love of God.  “Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. No one has ever seen God; but if we love one another, God lives in us and his love is made complete in us.” (1 John 4:11-12)

Let your tongue be honoring in all you say!

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