The Dating Line

Where is the line in dating? That invisible line we all wish we knew between what is too far and equally what is too conservative. We are not just talking about physical lines, but spiritual and emotional lines as well. When it comes to physical lines, 1 Timothy 3:1 is directed at deacons, but we all should strive to “be above reproach” as believers with they way we engage in a physical relationship. Instead of asking “How far can I go before marriage” you should try to be above reproach. This means others can see you are both striving to honor God with your physical limits in public and private. Sex before marriage is off limits, period. Anything that gets close enough for you to ask if it is okay, is too close to be above reproach.

Secondly, we should have spiritual lines in dating. These lines keep us from over committing ourselves before the time is right. This line is hard to define, but the first spiritual test is if you are both equally “yoked” for one another, 2 Corinthians 6:14. Are you spiritually compatible with one another? This should be a reflection of where you and your potential partner are in your walk with the Lord. They don’t have to match, but they need to be close so you can connect with one another in Christ. Also, when you say “I love you” it should come from a Biblical meaning found in 1 Corinthians 13 , not an emotional response to a moment.

Last, guard your emotions and set lines. Yes, you can share your emotions, but this should be done gradually as you begin to know one another. There is no timeline to this, but you should keep your relationship with God your priority in dating and not replace time with Him for time with them. You are potentially making a life long decision with who you are dating.  Make sure you don’t base that on a short term relationship.